20 Feb 2005 #0508.html

Stephen G. Starr

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Dear Family and Friends,

Welcome to this week's "Thoughtlet."

These words are my personal diary and a weekly review of ideas, beliefs, thoughts, or words that will hopefully be of some benefit to you: my children, my family, and my friends.

"It has been a quiet week by Lake Wobegone. The biggest news is that Sara is coming home early from the Peace Corps. She was very hesitant to tell me, because I have taught you kids to follow through on commitments. I understand she has been sick a lot, and I have been very worried about what she hasn't told me about her friends and traveling companions, living and work conditions, motorcycle accident, and other things. There is a tendency among a few of you kids to lie to me, i.e. to not tell the whole truth or only to say the things you think I want to hear. There is a classic example that came up a few weeks ago, and I was specifically asked not to write anything about it in a Thoughtlet, and so I won't, until it becomes public knowledge, and then I won't make a big deal about it. My point is that eventually the truth (knowledge of things as they were, as they are, and as they are to be, 0502.html) always comes out. Anyway, Sara Ellen will be home about Easter. I will probably be in China when she gets back. I did not ask her, but I assume she does not get any of the $5,000 job completion pay. I know she is worried about money and wants to get after understanding what is involved in being a full time cook.

In last Sunday's Chronicle there was an article about thousands of protesters clashing with police in Togo, the country just to the west of Benin. Sara had sent a note saying to call her on Monday in Contoneau, because she was going to Ghana on Monday afternoon (http://www.walden3d.com/benin/letters/050211.html). Needless to say I was less than excited about her trip, and told her when I finally got hold of her on the phone. She assured me she would be safe, and that she was traveling in a Peace Corps car, and that they take all necessary precautions. She sent the following note on Friday:

`I'm not sure what happened about that email to Aunt Sara. At least it's saved on my computer so when I get back to Save and then to internet, I can send it again. I'm glad you are ok with my decision to come home. I will not be going to cooking school directly. First of all, I need to save up money before thats a possibility. Second, I want to do hands on research on the food industry before I commit to cooking school. I would love if you would talk to Joe Menkie about the possibility of an apprenticeship of sort where I could get a chance to really become involved in a kitchen. I will certainly send you a resume if you think that's best. But, I have little kitchen experience (I worked at a bakery in college, and a catering company in high school). Even just to stop in and mention that I am interested and get a feel for the possibility of an apprenticeship. That could open up the idea of it and when I come home, I can meet him personally and talk in more depth. What do you think? Thanks so much. I got back from Ghana just fine. Togo was very calm. Talk to you soon, Sara.'


I hope that somewhere in my words, those of you who read them will see the depth of my concern, my love, and my desires for the very best for each of you. Maybe you will find it in the consistency with which I write them? Maybe you will find it in the things I do not write about? Maybe you will find it in the white spaces between what is written? And maybe some of you will never recognize it in this life? Oh well! Isn't being a parent fun? A challenge? A trial? A test? A learning experience? An opportunity for personal growth?

On Monday, Andrea gave me a card that read:

`YES! YES!! YES!!! YES - I want you to be my valentine! (What were you thinking?) Happy Valentine's Day I guess part of your valentine's present are better ironed shirts! Love, Andrea.'


Also, we received a nice note from Bridget:

`Dear Uncle Roice and Andrea, Thank you so much for the baby money. Since she's going through <u>tons</u> of diapers it will definitely come in handy. She is doing really well so far and is very cute (she has lots of dark hair like her Dad). Hopefully I'll get organized soon and get pictures to everyone. Hope all is well with you! Love, Bridget'


There was yet another interesting show on `The Engines of Our Ingenuity' Monday morning, a repeat of program #1035 about Martha Ballard Midwife, from which I wrote the following possible stanza for Prime Words:

`It is in the detail Of a hard life well lived That civilization is made From biographies is truth sieved'


Jialin has been tied up with Spring Festival activities all week, and so there was no communication from China until Friday. The report was brief and to the point, and left more questions than answers. Sam LeRoy had a Tiles meeting on Monday, and I was asked to find some more well log digitizers. I called Rob, and he was interested, but sick. The Doctor told him he was no longer contagious, and so I picked him up Tuesday morning at 6:15 and he worked until 4:15. He was too sick to come in Wednesday or Thursday, and too sick to even call in on Friday until after lunch and several phone messages from me. Oh well! Tuesday evening Andrea and I went to the temple and both enjoyed the time together and in The House of The Lord. I spent the first of the week working on cleaning up my e-mail messages at work. I also put together a Spotfire presentation on my Dynamic Prospects to show to Rick Zimmerman, when (if) he calls back. Tony Traweek and worked late on Wednesday night.

Roger Anderson had pointed Vijay Vaitheeswaran, the Energy and Environment Corespondent for The Economist, at me. He was in town for CERA WEEK (Cambridge Energy Associates). He kept delaying his visit, and finally made it to the office at 7:00 Wednesday evening. Lee Bell was walking out as I finished my initial debriefing of what Vijay wanted, and ended up talking to him with me for an hour. Then I gave him a series of demonstrations and described some of the projects I have been working on. He was particularly interested in my work with gas hydrates, and I might end up publishing the stuff I prepared for the Hedberg Conference for two years in that magazine. Interesting. He was very interested in my connections in China. Also, I sent him some follow-up information, and it will be interesting to see what actually gets published in the April edition of The Economist. He assured me I would not be taken out of context, and frankly, fairly often when I've been quoted in the press in the past, I find there are some points which are misrepresented. Time always tells.

Samuel Mentemeier, the Anadarko geophysicist I have been working with on the presentation for the Spotfire conference next Tuesday (0509.html), had a motorcycle accident, breaking his leg in two places, and making it so he will not be able to attend the meeting and give the presentation. Anadarko assigned a petrophysicist named Brian Locke to take his place. I met with him on Friday and he will do a very good job. The other thing that happened at work was that Prakash and I spent quite a bit of time putting together a model from the Xing Jiang Oilfield for Dave Johnson. I kept making mistakes in what I provided Prakash, and as with most mathematical models, he was able to identify the mistakes and ask me to redo it. I think I got it right before I left on Friday. It is interesting that folks are still coming up to me and saying that they miss our Chinese visitors. There was an article in this week's Time Magazine about the number of Chinese spies in the United States. When I read it I laughed and thought about Mr. Mao from Xing Jaing. I let him borrow Prime Words one night, and he came back with a note that said `A philosopher. Mr. Roice' Then the day they left he took dozens of digital photos of my office, telling me he wanted to arrange his office just like I arranged my office. I wondered at the time if it was some kind of spy thing. Oh well! I got quite sick myself Thursday night, and have spent a lot of time asleep in bed since then.

Friday we received a nice thank you card from Taylor Robbyn Wright (0507.html). I was amazed with her handwriting improvements in the last week. It read:

`Happy Me Dear grandma & grandpa, Thank you so much for the adorable outfits that you gave me for my birthday. I am going to look so cute this summer! Thank you for doing so much for me & Colby. I love y'all, Taylor XOXO'


The theme for this week is the death of a long time professional colleague. Stephen G. Starr called things like he saw them, and as a result of me accusing him of spreading rumors about my marital problems around the Houston Geophysical Community sometime in 1995, we have not had much to do with each other for the last decade. He was certainly right in regards to his brash comments about my `eternal marriage.' And I was probably paranoid in my reaction to what he said, and my concern for the impact of his words on my reputation. And I think we both lost out by letting this personal stuff get in the way of our working together professionally. Oh well!

Sam LeRoy came into my office on Tuesday morning and told me Steve had had a stroke and died. Over the next few days I learned how close Steve and Sam had worked together since I introduced them when we were doing the HyperEdge Expert Association Breakfast Meetings from September 9th, 1993 to August 17th 1995 (http://www.walden3d.com/hmc96/hypermedia2.html). But before I go there, let me give a bit of history.

Back in 1983 or 1984, Steve Starr worked at Union Texas Petroleum. UTP was also the home to Al Poprik, Bill Dickison, and Keith Rawlinson. I remember Steve and Al giving me a copy of a research study by GeoQuest International on the requirements needed to make a successful interactive workstation. We had already designed and built and delivered our first Landmark III workstations. I was interested in the document for historical reasons, i.e. because GeoQuest was a sponsor of the Seismic Acoustics Lab, and their consortium appeared to have been built based on the presentations I gave at the Annual Meetings of SAL. I never used this manual for any design of Landmark software, and looking back I can see how this could be considered corporate espionage. Oh well!

Steve was the person at UTP who pushed through the purchase of Landmark III system serial number 13. This system had dual power, was used in Houston for a while for training, then was sent to Spain, then was brought back to Houston, and eventually was given to the SEG, along with all of the original users manuals, for their museum in Tulsa, Oklahoma.

I next knew Steve at Total Minitome, where he was doing similar things. He started an annual PC based software meeting called GeoTech in Houston, which I think originally started in Denver. The AAPG had a magazine named GeoByte for several years, which grew out of the GeoTech meetings. The work that Tracy Stark has been pursuing for the last several years was sparked by a presentation I gave at one of these GeoTech Conventions. There are interconnections within interconnections related to Steve Starr and my career. I think the photo from flyer we made for the the HyperEdge Expert Association Consulting Services highlights the connections (to the right). Steve arranged for the photographer and set up the organization. The big oak tree was on Maudeen Mark's ranch. I'm in the front. Steve is in back of me to the left (my right hand). Behind him are Blaine Taylor and Rhonda Harmann (whom Steve talked me into hiring). Then from left to right are Terry Smith, Laramie Winczewski, Charlie Rego, Ron Szabo, and Russ Herron. The meetings with Steve were always firey, and one never knew where they would go. He was a catalyst for much good in the industry.

Since all of us have to die, and since you are hopefully too young to see many of your friends die, and so you do not feel the loss as acutely as those of us who have known and worked with folks for many years do, I will type out Steve's obituary for your consideration:

`Stephen G. Starr was born August 30, 1933 in Detroit, Michigan. He passed away on Monday, February 14, 2005 in Houston, Texas. Stephen served four years in the Army, where he trained as a sharpshooter and served in the Army Security Agency. He earned the National Defense Service Medal, along with numerous other awards and commendations. After being discharged in 1956, he earned his Bachelor's and Master's degrees in geology and geophysics from Wayne State University. As a geophysicist, Stephen traveled the globe, becoming an extremely well respected expert in his field. He was a member of the SEG and AAPG organizations and was always willing and ready to help others. In the eighties downturn he directed his energies to putting the younger men and women in his field back to work encouraging them to go back to school, if necessary, to complete degrees and worked tirelessly finding them opportunities for success. In his professional and personal life many were touched and all were the better for it. Education was of upmost importance to Stephen, causing his children and his grandchildren to give him the nickname "the nag". He loved to question his charges about "what's next? Where do you go from here?" and we loved him for it. He was truly the wind beneath us all, keeping us afloat at times, and moving faster at others. Stephen Starr was a descendent of judges, lawyers and politicians, but what meant the most to him, and what he will be remembered for is his devotion to his friends and family. He was always ready to take a grandchild on his knee, wipe away tears, and supply the much needed and appreciated funds for those college crisis's that inevitably arose. He was a wonderful man, with a quick humor and a broad shoulder for those of us that leaned on him in times of need. He was the patriarch of our family, and he will be missed everyday. Stephen is survived by his bride of forty-eight years, Marjorie, son Dennis Starr of Minnesota, daughter-in-law Katy Mendoza of Houston, son Stephen and daughter-in-law Debbie Starr of Houston, sister Lt. Colonel Anne Starr of Michigan, brother Timothy and sister-in-law Kathy Starr of Michigan and six grandchildren. They are Jennifer Kyham and her husband Ki, Tishcka Starr, Morgane Englishbee, Amanda Starr, Brittne Lewis and her husband Danny, and Joshua Englishbee. He also had three great-grandchildren, Brooke and Regan Buchanan, and Eddie Roy Starr, with two more on the way. A celebration of his life will be held on Friday, February 18, 2005 at 3:30 p.m. in the chapel of Forest Park Westheimer Funeral Home, 12800 Westheimer Road. For those so desiring, memorials in honor of Stephen G. Starr may be made to the George Bush Heart Center, 6411 Fannin, First Floor - Jones, Houston, Texas 77030.'


Although I wasn't feeling very well, I went to the viewing on Thursday evening and the funeral on Friday afternoon. It was like old home week. Tom Smith, President of SMT, was leaving as I arrived. Mike McCardle was talking to him along with Jerry Donaldson. Bill Dickson and his wife asked about Keith Rawlinson. Scott Sechrist gave me a status of his work at Calpine and got caught up on what I have been doing. I did not think they did a very good job on Steve's makeup. He looked very gray and had aged a lot since I had seen him ten years earlier. The little sheet they handed out at the funeral service said:

`In Memory I Am Free Don't grieve for me, for now I am free. I am following the path God laid for me. I took His hand when I heard Him call. I turned my back and left it all. I could not stay another day. To laugh, to love, to work, to play. Tasks left undone must stay that way. I found that peace at the close of the day. If my parting has left a void, Then fill it with remembered joy. A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss; Oh yes, these things I too will miss. Be not burdened with time of sorrow, I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow. My life's been full, I savored much; good friends, good times, a loved one's touch. Perhaps my time seems all too brief; don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your hearts and peace to thee- God wanted me now, He set me free. ... In Loving Memory of Stephen Garrett Starr, Sr. Born August 30, 1933 Detroit, Michigan At Rest February 14, 2005 Houston, Texas Funeral Service 3:30 p.m. Friday, February 18, 2005 Forest Park Westheimer Funereal Home Speakers The family and friends of Mr. Starr Special Video Tribute Created by his loving family Memorials George Bush Heart Center 6411 Fannin, First Floor Jones Houston, Texas 77030'


Stephen G. Starr put a lot of work into the North Harris County Community College program to re-educate geologists and geophysicists. He got Landmark, GeoQuest, and SMT to donate systems and training expertise to the College. Clifford Kelly ran the program for a while, and he was the person who, to me, gave the most stirring tribute to Steve. Sam LeRoy, who was broken up all week over Steve's passing, also have very nice comments. The PowerPoint summary of his life was interesting. The music, a weird song about 300 tons of bananas, seemed to fit Steve. Mike McCardle's wife talked me into stepping forward and taking and then releasing one of the balloons in Steve's honor. It was the first time I have seen this at a funeral, and I thought it was very nice. My balloon was one of three that floated off to the left and formed a triangle, while the other balloons were all in a group as they floated off fairly rapidly into the western sky. Steve made a difference, he was a delta function for our industry, and I am sorry we did not reconcile after the divorce proved him right in what he had said to me, the specific's of which I can not even remember, as it occurred at least a year before I started writing these Thoughtlets, and a couple of years before they turned into my personal journal.

I do hope each of you have someone to prod and to nag and to get you to do things like take the Birkman test. In my life, this was partly provided by Stephen G. Starr."

Since the 38th week of 1996 I have written a weekly "Thoughtlet" (little statements of big thoughts which mean a lot to me). Until the 43rd week of 2004 I sent these out as an e-mail. They were intended to be big thoughts which mean a lot to me. Over time the process evolved into a personal diary. These notes were shared with my family because I know how important the written word can be. Concerned about how easy it is to drift and forget our roots and our potential among all of distractions of daily life, I thought this was a good way to reach those I love. It no longer feels right to send out an e-mail and "force" my kids and my family to be aware of my life and struggles. Everyone has their own life to lead, and their own struggles to work through. I will continue this effort, and will continue to make my notes publicly accessible (unless I learn of misuse by someone who finds out about them, and then will aggressively pursue a legal remedy to copyright infringement and I will put the Thoughtlets behind a password). The index to download any of these Thoughtlets is at http://www.walden3d.com/thoughtlets, or you can e-mail me with questions or requests at rnelson@walden3d.com (note if you are not on my e-mail "whitelist" you must send 2 e-mails within 24 hours of each other in order for your e-mail to not be trashed).

With all my love,
Dad
(H. Roice Nelson, Jr.)

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Copyright © 2005 H. Roice Nelson, Jr.